Saturday, April 25, 2020

Motherhood: Month 9


All 3 of my babies πŸ’œπŸ’œπŸ’™


Every new stage takes some getting used to. It usually begins with complete overwhelm and this one of mobility is no different. I feel like I’m drowning in a sea of floors that need swept and mopped, and mountains of dirty dishes and laundry, and random things that need re-homed. The last of which gives me major anxiety in my normal life, let alone this new one of confinement. Cleaning helps give me a sense of control and when I can’t seem to get anything accomplished, I start to spiral a bit (Thanks Marsha & Kim for talking me through it 😘). Things were different when Quinn wasn’t mobile because if I didn’t happen to get the floor swept for a day (or two or three πŸ˜³), he didn’t have the proof of it all over his clothes. It’s a constant struggle to do all the things I need to do while also doing the most important thing, which is spend time with him. He was having a hard time either working on another tooth or having a growth spurt so he was fussy at the drop of a hat last week. He would be fine playing on his own one minute and screaming the next. I spent one whole day feeling super frustrated about it and then regretful and sympathetic to him the next. Neither one is preferable since there isn’t much I can do for him. I can cuddle him and give him medicine when I think he needs it and that helps some. It sucks when he fusses all day with me and then gets excited to see Philip when he gets off work, it feels like he’s sick of me. Sometimes the feeling is mutual though so I get it πŸ€·πŸ»‍♀️πŸ˜‚.


I just feel like I can’t do it all and that makes me a failure. Do you know how many things babies put in their mouths? It seems like I can’t do anything for 5 seconds without him finding something to taste that I would rather he not. HE. LICKS. ALL. THE. THINGS. 

Every time I think I have shit figured out, everything changes. I have this added pressure of feeling like I should know what I’m doing because I’ve worked in child development for the past 8 years. But you know what? I don’t always remember what he should be doing next. Probably because I’m trying to mop my floors and run the sweeper and fold laundry and do dishes and make meal plans and try not to contract a damn virus while leaving my house once a week. The worst part about this quarantine is that it is a state of mind, too. I forget that just because I can’t go see people, it doesn’t mean they aren’t there for me. The few FaceTimes we’ve had have lifted my mood immensely and I need to do that more. 




I have a major case of Mom Guilt. I feel guilty about the amount of attention I give to the girls. I and the girls, especially Sansa, have become either obstacles that he must overcome to get to where he’s going or apparatuses for which he uses to pull to stand πŸ€¦πŸ»‍♀️. Sophie is not a fan of him climbing on her and we still get some growls but she’s learning to move when she doesn’t want him near her. She’s good about sharing her toys with him (much to my annoyance πŸ™„) when she wants to but the other day he happened upon her cactus toy and she went and took it from him πŸ˜‚. It was his first lesson in sharing πŸ˜‰πŸ˜†. I’ve started gating them out of his room while I pump because he likes to escape while I’m tethered to my spot but that also seems to be prime climbing time and I can’t wrangle him off of them and pump at the same time. I’m counting down the days until I’m done pumping πŸ˜


Poor Sansa gets it from both of them 🀦🏻‍♀️  





Every week brings so many new developments. Changing his diaper and especially putting on pants is now a wrestling match. I’m about to put him in a figure 4. If you don’t know that move, google it. (Thanks, Michelle πŸ€ͺ). He has started clapping, waving (mostly unintentionally so far), dancing, crawling on his knees and apparently also on his feet in a downward dog forward shuffle type maneuver, and is FINALLY starting to eat some actual, non-pureed food. It all happened so fast. Just two weeks ago Philip put a piece of bread in his mouth and he cried. Today he ate beef stew and pizza on Thursday πŸ€·πŸ»‍♀️. He’s fascinated by everyone’s mouth: his, mine, Philip’s, the dogs’. He constantly tries to feel our teeth and sometimes even the hangy ball in the back of our throats—also known as the uvula but that word isn’t any fun. He tries to pull on our teeth and tongues, too. He even went after Sansa’s tongue the other day, which is always hanging out the side of her mouth and is an easy target. In child development there are time periods where certain skills are learned quite easily, known as windows of opportunity, and his window right now is open to developing the muscles to pull. Aside from just pulling to stand, he will lift both arms up in front of his face, clasp his hands together, and try to pull them apart πŸ˜†. He likes to try to pull his washcloth in two. He pulled the toilet paper off the holder and shredded some while I was in the shower πŸ˜©. His favorite pulling activity though is on my hair πŸ€¬πŸ€¬πŸ€¬. I’ve created some activities for him to hone this new skill and I’ll be making a video and posting it to my Creative Kimpire YouTube channel soon, if anyone is interested πŸ™ƒ. I have two YouTube channels now, that one, where I talk about making homemade toys, and one for yoga—Balanced Life Yoga. I’m struggling with learning about video editing and keeping up with making videos, cause ya know, I have a baby to chase around, but I’m trying!


Jello Dig! Unflavored gelatin and his toys stuck in it πŸ™‚. 


He liked it at first....


Until he ate some...


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Poor kid. Don’t worry, Soph was there to help clean it up, as always 🀦🏻‍♀️πŸ™„

Eating pizza for the first time=his dad’s proudest moment so far. Philip lovessssss pizza and makes it from scratch pretty much once a week. 

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Now that Quinn is an accomplished crawler, he is often exploring whatever room we happen to be in. He likes to sneak off to the trash closet while I’m doing dishes. If the sliding glass door is open to let the girls outside, he almost always makes a break for it. Until recently he would stop at the edge and not actually go outside but he’s past that invisible shield and is no longer scared to crawl on out to the deck πŸ€¦πŸ»‍♀️. I can see him in the reflection of the fridge and when he gets close I’ll start saying in a sing song voice “Quinn, Quinn, where are you? I can’t see you!” and he crawls back to where he can see me. It’s adorable and I hope it lasts πŸ˜‚. Speaking of adorable, he has mastered the cutest face I’ve ever seen. He scrunches up his nose and like does a huffing noise. It’s hilarious. To us he gets cuter every day but he must be past the intriguing “ohhh, there’s a ~*~baby~*~” stage because when we go for a walk and pass people (at social distancing acceptable range, of course), they are now starting to notice the dogs again and not mention him πŸ€£πŸ€£πŸ€£ I’m glad it’s warming up so I can start using the stroller more often. We walk most days and to help keep him warm, I wear him in his carrier when it’s under 60 degrees, but man is that becoming challenging. It’s like doing weighted squats but my hips are adjusting and becoming stronger. Ever since I became pregnant with him I get hot so easily and I’m usually dying by the time we home. 


He made it outside and was very proud of himself 🀦🏻‍♀️  


Master Mess Maker. 


“What Mom?” πŸ™‚

Uh oh. Lol

Just LOOK at that nose crinkle 😍😍


I recently had a conversation with Michelle and she asked me what’s something I’ve done that I was sure I wouldn’t do as a mom. I immediately knew the answer to that question because we recently started trying a transition to hopefully correct it πŸ€ͺ. Because I was a Parent Educator for so long I was very committed to Safe Sleep practices when Quinn was first born. I still believe that it is best practice….HOWEVER, for my sanity, there were nights that Quinn ended up sleeping in bed with me. He would always go to sleep in his bassinet but when he would wake up to eat and I would pump, he would often not want to go back to sleep when we finished, so into our bed he went. That would put him right out πŸ™„. Anyway, once he started being able to pull to stand, I worried that he would fall out of the bassinet trying to get to our bed. For four nights now he has gone to sleep in his crib, in his room, and he stays there until he wakes up for a feeding. I try to put him back there but have not been successful thus far so the sleeping in our bed is still an ongoing dilemma. It’s a start though. The first night in his crib was terrible for me lol. We have a nice camera so I’m able to check on him on my phone and he’s literally on the other side of the wall from me. When the dishwasher isn’t running I can sometimes even hear him breathe. It’s getting a little easier and he doesn’t seem to mind. His crib feels more like our bed than his bassinet so I thought it may not be too hard of a transition. The crib can be (and will be soon!) lowered, the bassinet can’t. Not to mention, he’s running out of room in it. He likes to roll around, especially in our bed. The bad part about that is, you know how I mentioned everything is an obstacle to overcome? Pillows are no longer boundaries to keep him safe πŸ€¦πŸ»‍♀️. Getting up to pee while he’s asleep is a scary sport. He was completely asleep this morning, looking particularly cute even, when I got up to let Sansa out. I can see him while doing that but then I needed to pee. I confirmed that he was still sleeping and went to the bathroom for a record breaking urination. I came back to find him on his knees, pulling on a sleeping Philip’s nose πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. I mean, it was hilarious but worrisome, too. I don’t want to wake him up to take him with me if I can sneak away and back and resume sleeping! And this is why he needs to learn to sleep in his crib πŸ˜‰


A lovely moment captured by my husband πŸ₯°. 

This. This right here. 😳

The girls are being really patient with him, for the most part. Sophie is a great vacuum for dropped baby food. She also does an incredible nostril cleansing. It’s a service I would be willing to rent her out for. She practices on Philip almost daily and has really mastered her skills set. She gets all up in there, especially with my goading. I laugh every single time, usually until I cry. It’s quite amusing. Today the girls had to go get vaccines and nail trims at the vet and they’re doing curbside service where they come out to get your animals and then bring them back to you so people aren’t going inside. It was a bit of a hot mess because Sophie got loose when the vet tech got her out and it’s right by the highway πŸ˜³. I got out and caught her so the whole social distancing went out the window πŸ€¦πŸ»‍♀️. Sansa’s nail got cut too short and luckily, I had a sheet on my backseat because it bled all over the place πŸ˜©. She, of course, jumped to the front seat, which did not have a sheet on it, and now my Jeep is a wonderful conglomeration of slobber, fur, and blood πŸ€¬πŸ€¬πŸ€¬. Another employee had to come out to put styptic powder on her nail and Sansa was soooo excited to see her, she kept licking her face and wagging her tail all over the place. I had to hold her butt down so she could get to Sansa’s foot. Poor Sansa has been quarantined for too long! She’s a social dog, she needs pets from other people, damn it! πŸ€£


Everyone wants mom’s attention at the same time 




Just chillin on the couch 😎 

Just making sure Quinn doesn’t wanna share that pickle with them πŸ™„πŸ˜‚


I hope everyone stays safe and we can assume a new normal soon! 

Sunday, April 12, 2020

Motherhood: Month 8.5


Quinn turned 9 months old on the 10th!

Despite the circumstances, I’ve thoroughly enjoyed the last two weeks. Every day feels like a new adventure because Quinn is learning so much so quickly! That doesn’t mean it isn’t exhausting though. Sometimes I’m so tired that I can’t sleep. I’ve never been a “night person” but I’m becoming one because being at home with a baby all day leaves lots to be desired in the “me” time slot. Lately it takes, on average, about 3 tries to put Quinn to bed. Typically I’ll rock him and think he’s out but as soon as I lay him down he immediately sits up. I tell him that just because he CAN sit up, doesn’t mean he SHOULD but it doesn’t do any good πŸ€·πŸ»‍♀️πŸ€ͺ. Sometimes the second attempt goes the same way. Usually the third time is the charm though. I always think of it like in the movies about boxers how the one boxer is going to lose but he Just. Keeps. Getting. Up. I’m like, “Just stay down! You’re not gonna win!” Once he finally gives in to sleep I have to sneak away from his bassinet like a ninja because I don’t want to risk waking him back up. Do you know the easiest way to find the creakiest spots in your floor? That’s right, sneaking away from a sleeping baby. They sound 1,000 times louder in those incidences. 

He has learned new tricks, like how to pull to stand and he’s starting to crawl on his knees for a few seconds before dropping back down to army crawl. He’ll use anything to pull to stand: the side of the bathtub, the door to the dishwasher when it’s open, Sansa…Poor Sansa. She has really taken a beating lately. He loves to smack things and unfortunately, she’s one of his favorite toys πŸ€¦πŸ»‍♀️. She gets it from both siblings. I’m always telling him to use gentle hands and showing him how to pet her nicely. I tell him to use gentle hands and Sophie to use a gentle tongue. She’s constantly coming in hot and giving Quinn a tongue lashing on a drive by. Obviously, she’s still driving me crazy. Some days I want to socially distance myself from her πŸ™…πŸ»‍♀️. She’s so jealous it’s ridiculous. We were giving Quinn a bath one night and laughing about something when we heard a loud “mmmmmeeeeerrrrrr” outside the door. That’s Sophie’s way of complaining. She was waiting for us when we came out πŸ˜‚



Poor Sansa lol


It’s blurry but this pic captures Sansa’s plight perfectly πŸ˜‚


The “baby” 🐢🀦🏻‍♀️  







“What, Mom?”

Thank you, Lisa H. for the slide! He loves climbing on it...even though he doesn’t know how to properly use it yet πŸ€£πŸ‘‡πŸ»


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Quinn has started exploring his environment now that he is mobile and keeping him occupied is somewhat easy right now. When we’re in the kitchen and he gets a little fussy, just give him some measuring cups to bang or a macaroni and cheese box to shake. He loves pulling on the dog leashes that hang by the door, too. When I run the sweeper he follows me from room to room and just watches. He’s pretty fascinated by the vacuum. Fortunately, baby proofing isn’t all the different from dog proofing as far as putting things away that babies/dogs can’t have so there isn’t much out that he can get hurt by. Some days when I’m busy trying to get things done for work or yoga, he’s great at occupying himself by playing with whatever he can find close to where I am. I almost feel guilty sometimes that he spent the day playing with my camera bag or some bowls. That’s not to say that I don’t give him any attention, obviously. I have to pump every 4-5 hours so we always play together while I’m pumping and at other times when I’m not trying to accomplish something. Of course I feed him and change him and care for all of his needs. I’m not busy every second of every day.  I know I don’t need to tell you all this. For one baby, he sure can make a mess like a boss. On days where he has mostly occupied himself there will be toys/household items EVERYWHERE πŸ€¦πŸ»‍♀️😩. Between him and the girls, the end of the day clean up is a deciphering game of what are baby toys and what are dog toys because they’re both all over the place πŸ˜‚



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“Helping” fold laundry


Just hanging out in the kitchen, wondering what to get into next πŸ€ͺ. 

He loves to explore the pantry. 




Pulling (chewing 🀦🏻‍♀️🀷🏻‍♀️) on the dog leashes (yes, I sanitize them πŸ˜‰). 

Trying to meal plan. I asked him who unplugged the Roomba, AKA Alfred. He doesn’t know 🀷🏻‍♀️

Quinn is really starting to communicate well. He doesn’t say so many words that are intelligible, but he can hold a conversation anyway. For those of you who have seen Guardians of the Galaxy, we’ve decided Quinn is much like Groot. Groot uses one phrase, “I am Groot,” but people seem to understand what he means anyway. Quinn often says “goo,” “dada,” and lots of other sounds and we just carry on as though he is participating in the conversation. 

Another form of communication he has adopted is nonverbal: arching and throwing himself backward when he gets mad. It’s amusing at this point but I know it will get old fast if we allow him to use this technique to get his way. Unfortunately for him, he has two very stubborn parents so I think we’ll be alright. He also likes to pick his legs up when you want him to stand in the tub so it’s easier to wash him. Good times. Good times. There’s only been one day so far that I was about to lose my shit with this quarantine and I know I gained a whole patch of gray hair that day. All these memes talk about coming out of confinement knowing everyone’s true hair color. I’ve said I don’t plan to dye mine and let it gray naturally, I just didn’t think it would happen all in one month πŸ€¦πŸ»‍♀️😝

Even though some days are challenging, I love being a mom and I’m so happy Quinn is ours. When he crawls over to you and puts his little arms up to be picked up it will just melt your heart. You think, “Oh, he chose me” ❤️. He is such a happy kid and we laugh all the time. He hasn’t been that into solid food until just the last few days. I was worried I would have to pump breastmilk to feed him for the rest of his life but I think he’s finally coming around. He tried a pickle for the first time the other day and it was the cutest thing ever. Even though he puckered his face, he kept going back for more. However, Philip tried to give him a piece of bread and it made him cry πŸ€£. The hard part is keeping Sophie away from him while he’s eating. She loves food and he is going to love giving it to her, I can already tell πŸΆπŸ˜©



“I love pickles!”


Speaking of food, I didn’t feel great the other day. Don’t worry, I don’t think I’m infected, just had a bellyache. When I was growing up, we always ate KFC mashed potatoes and gravy when we didn’t feel good so that’s the ultimate comfort food to me. During this period of social distancing we have only eaten take out once, and that was for my birthday. No offense to anyone but I don’t trust that people won’t go to work sick. I worked at Pizza Hut for 4 years and at Po Boy before that so I know what it’s like to miss out on a paycheck and also not have sick time. Anyway, I haven’t wanted to risk bringing anything home to Quinn or either of us so we’ve been cooking every day. However, that day I just really wanted some KFC so Philip went and got us some after work. I don’t know if their mashed potatoes have always sucked and I didn’t realize or they’ve changed their product in the last couple of months or if I had just gotten so used to cooking real food that my taste buds are now skewed, but I was completely disappointed. They were noticeably instant potatoes and maybe they always are and the gravy does a better job of hiding that fact. I don’t know. I’m not here to dog KFC because I’ve told you what sentimental value their mashed potatoes hold for me. I’m hoping it was an unfortunate incident and the next meal will be redeeming. 

I think my bellyache and subsequent need for comfort food was the result of anxiety from this trying time in our history. While I am enjoying being home with my family, being distanced from everyone else I love is hard. Some days are tougher than others but when you already struggle with depression, this sort of thing is concerning. Not being able to go to the store when you need something is stressful. I guess I shouldn’t say not being able to, but rather not wanting to. I go grocery shopping once a week and that is so anxiety inducing that it exhausts me. You could drive yourself crazy trying to disinfect everything. My thought process could easily spiral into an overwhelming pit of fear. Fear of being the reason I make Quinn or Philip sick. One of them having to go to hospital alone. I just can’t even imagine that horror. What’s truly scary is going shopping and seeing everything as it once was while an invisible enemy lurks and could attack without warning. Ugh. I just try to do the best I can and shower as soon as I get everything wiped down. Just for the sake of it, I want to say to everyone please don’t judge what people are buying. One person’s essentials may be different than your own and that’s ok. Just go about your business as quickly as possible and don’t worry about everyone else. 


I need to take my own advice on that last one because today was difficult. Philip and I still cooked Easter dinner and we had fun with Quinn, but I missed having dinner with my brother’s family and my dad. When you get on Facebook and see that some people didn’t obey the social distancing guidelines and chose to celebrate with their families (while also risking infecting their families—a selfish move in my opinion), it’s frustrating. I like rules. Mostly. When they make sense. It’s frustrating to me when people don’t follow sensible rules, for whatever reason. We need this to end and it won’t if people don’t do what’s asked, which isn’t hard to do. Well, not physically anyway. 

Anyway, I’ll get off my soapbox now. 


Quinn’s first Easter!






His bunny butt ❤️




His basket from Aunt Lori, Uncle Greg, Haleigh, Coen, Kate, and Link. He loved it!


Wearing his onesie and sitting beside his bowl from Mimi ❤️

Trying mashed potatoes for his Easter dinner. πŸ˜‚


He also got a water table but we gave it to him a few days early because it was warm outside and he doesn’t know when it’s Easter πŸ€ͺ. 



Happy Easter, everyone!






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